I view couples as full of possibility, rather than pathology. As a result, I do not locate problems within individual members of a couple, but rather, within the culture that surrounds us. As participants of the culture ourselves, we are well aware of the endless messages (from media, organizations, families, etc.) telling us how a relationship “should” or “should not” look. These messages often obscure our own unique values and intentions for our relationships.
Unlike some of the more traditional couples therapies that lead with a requirement of spending a lot of time in the past, i look into the past, but primarily as it informs current behaviors that aren’t working effectively for the couple. Once these dynamics are identified, our work becomes very goal-oriented intertwined with preferred ideas of how to be in any type of relationship.
Supporting couples and each individual in identifying shared values and specific ideas arising from you, that can actively engage their hopes for the future, in any direction this future may be, based on your preferences, moment of your lives or desicions to live uncoupled or in any type of morality. I firmly believe that everybody can make their own rules, and I am here to navigate that with you if you find it helpful.
Sexual conversations are a priority in my approach and I am informed by my values of consent, biological changes in men and women and other cultural factors. It is my hope that sexual dialogues could be protective in your seek for an overall well-being health as part of being in couple, or in any other modality of sexual health/interactions.